【荐读】拥有快乐的20个习惯

2016年06月17日 美国新阳光国际





1
Be grateful
要学会感恩



Slow down, look around you, and pay attention to the little details in your life – the delicate purple flower on the sidewalk, the beautiful sunset, the hot shower that washes away your long day, and the smile in your partner’s eyes…


让自己变慢脚步,看看你的四周,关注生活中的细微之处:人行道上淡紫色的花,美丽的日落,洗去你一天疲惫的淋浴,伴侣眼中的笑容,这些生活中的细节都会带给你快乐。


When you have a grateful heart that is appreciative of life’s beautify, wonder and blessings, you’re automatically filled with happiness.


当你心怀感恩,就会发现生活的美好,你自然就充满了幸福感。



2
Choose your friends wisely
明智的选择自己的朋友



According to Harvard, the most important external factors affecting individual happiness are human relationships. So if you want to be happy, choose to be around people who are optimistic, who appreciate you as you are, and who can make your life richer, bigger, more fun, and more meaningful.


根据哈佛研究表明,影响个人幸福最重要的外部因素是人际关系。所以如果你想变得开心的话,要选择和乐观的朋友在一起,他们会欣赏真实的你,让你的生活变得更丰富、快乐、有意义。



3
Cultivate compassion
培养同情心



When we try to step into other people’s shoes and understand a situation from another’s perspective, we’re more likely to handle the situation with compassion, objectivity and effectiveness. There will be less conflicts and more happiness.


当我们站在对方的角度看问题,我们能更好的培养同情心,便能客观和有效的处理问题。生活中就会少一些冲突,多一点快乐。



4
Keep learning
不断学习



Learning keeps us young and dreams keep us alive. When we engage our brains and put them toward productive uses, we’re less likely to dwell on unhappy thoughts and much more likely to feel happy and fulfilled.


学习让我们保持年轻,梦想让我们充满活力。我们运用大脑进行运作的时候,我们就不大会想不开心的事情,我们会变得更开心和满足。




5
Become a problem solver
学会解决问题



Happy people are problem solvers. When they encounter a challenge in life, they don’t beat themselves up and fall into a depressive state. Instead, they face up to the challenge and channel their energies toward finding creative a solution. By becoming a problem solver, you’ll build up your self-confidence and your ability to accomplish whatever it is you set your mind to – and whatever challenges life throws your way.


开心的人是会解决问题的人。在生活中遇到挑战的时候,他们不会因自虐,然后变得很消沉。他们会建立自信心并直面挑战,调动全身力量寻找解决办法。






6
Do what you love
做你想做的事情


Since we spend over one-third of our adult life working, loving what we do has a huge impact on our overall happiness. If this is not possible at the moment, then try to find enjoyment and meaning in your current work, or cultivate a hobby that involves doing something you love.


既然我们成人生活的三分之一时间都在工作,那么我们所做的工作对我们的整体幸福感就有很大的影响。如果现在不能做你想做的事情,那就试着在你现在的工作中寻找快乐和意义,或者你也可以在工作中培养你喜爱的兴趣爱好。



7
Live in the present
活在当下



When you feel depressed, you’re living in the past. When you feel worried or anxious, you’re living in the future. But when you feel content, happy and peaceful, you’re living in the present.


如果你感到沮丧,是因为你活在过去。如果你会感到担忧和焦虑,是因为你活在未来。只有当你活在当下,你才会感到满足和幸福。



8
Laugh often

要经常笑



Laughter is the most powerful anecdote to anger or depression. Research has shown that the simple act of curving the corners of your mouth can increase your feeling of happiness. So don’t take life too seriously. Try to find humor and laughter in life’s everyday struggles.


笑是对抗生气或沮丧最有力的武器。研究表明嘴巴上扬的动作也可以增加你的幸福感。不要把生活看的太严肃,要学会在每日的奋斗中寻找幽默感和笑声。



9
Practice forgiveness
学会原谅



Resentment and anger are forms of self-punishment. When you forgive, you’re actually practicing kindness to yourself. And most importantly, learn to forgive yourself. Everyone makes mistakes. It’s through our mistakes that we learn and grow to become a bigger and better person.


憎恨和生气是对自我的惩罚。当你释怀的时候,事实上你是在对自己施以善意。最重要的是学会原谅自己,每个人都会犯错。只有通过了解我们的错误,我们才能慢慢学会如何成为一个更强大,更好的人。



10
Say thanks often
要经常说谢谢



Always be appreciative of the blessings in your life. And it’s equally important to express your appreciation to those who’ve made your life better in some way, big or small.


对生活中的祝福要学会欣赏。向那些让你生活变好的人表达你真诚的感谢。






11
Create deeper connections
学会深交




Our happiness multiplies when we connect and bond with another human being on a deeper level. And being fully present and listening are two of the most important skills to strengthening that bond and bringing happiness to ourselves, and to others.


我们的幸福感会在和另一个人的深交中不断猛增。学会聆听是一种修养,更是让彼此感情更加深厚的一种情感能力。




12
Keep your agreement
遵守承诺


Our self-esteem is built on the agreements we’ve made with ourselves. And high self-esteem has a direct correlation to happiness. So keep your agreements with others and with yourself.


自尊是需要建立在我们对自己遵守承诺的基础上。自尊和幸福感有直接关联,想要收获幸福你需要对自己和别人遵守承诺。




13
Meditate
冥想


According to Harvard, people who take 8 sessions of mindfulness meditation training are, on average, 20% happier than a control group. Such training can lead to structural brain changes including increased grey-matter density in the hippocampus, known to be important for learning and memory, and in structures associated with self-awareness, compassion and introspection.


根据哈佛研究表明,平均上过8次冥想训练的人要比控制狂更易感到开心。冥想训练可以导致大脑结构变化,包括改变海马体黑色物质的密度,而海马体可以控制人的学习、记忆及压力反应能力。




14
Focus on what you’re doing
关注你在做的事情


When you put your mind, heart and soul into what you’re doing, you’re creating a happiness state – called the “flow.” When you’re living in the flow, you’re less likely to care about what others may think of you, and less bothered by things that are not that important. The result? More happiness, of course!


当你全身心投入一件事的时候,你就会感到开心。当你很开心的时候,你就不大会关心别人对你怎么看,不大会被琐事干扰,你会感觉很幸福!






15
Be optimistic
乐观


For happy people, the glass is always half-full. If your tendency is to imagine the very worst-case scenario every time you face a challenge, then train yourself to reverse that tendency. Ask yourself what good can come out of the situation or what you can learn from it. Optimism surely fuels success and happiness.


同样半杯子水, 乐观的人觉得杯子是半满, 悲观的人觉得杯子是半空的。每当你面对一个挑战时,如果你倾向于往最坏的方向去想,那就需要自我调整。试着让自己往积极的一面去思考,乐观积极的态度是会提升你的幸福感。




16
Love unconditionally
无条件的爱


No one is perfect. Accept yourself for all of your imperfections. And do so for others. Loving someone unconditionally does not mean that you need to spend all your time with them or help them figure out their problems. Unconditional love means accepting people as they are, and allowing them to find their own ways, at their own pace.


人无完人,你应该试着接受自己和他人的不完美。无条件的爱一个人并不意味着你要花所有的时间和他们在一起,或者帮助他们解决问题。无条件的爱意味着接受真实的他们,支持他们去发现自己去挑战自己。



17
Don’t give up
永不放弃


Unfinished projects and repeated defeats inevitably dampen one’s self-esteem. If you’ve made up your mind to do something, see it through. Don’t give up until you succeed. Remember, failure is temporary but defeat is permanent. And defeat only occurs when you give up.


未完成的项目和不断的失败都会打击我们的自尊,但如果你决定做某件事,在成功之前都不要放弃。要记住,失败是暂时的,只有当你放弃的时候,你才是真的被打败。



18
Do your best and then let go
做最好的自己,然后放手


Everyone has limitations, and things don’t always turn out to be what we’d like them to be – despite our efforts. So always give your best, and then let go. Let events run their course. When you’ve done your best, you’ll have no regrets.


每个人的能力都有限。有时候尽管我们很努力做一件事情,但是总会事与愿违。所以做最好的自己,尽人事,听天命。当你尽了全力,你就没有遗憾了。




19
Take care of yourself
好好照顾自己


A healthy body is the key to happiness. If you have poor health, it’s very difficult to be happy no matter how hard you try. So make sure you eat well, exercise and find time to rest. Take good care of your body, your mind and your spirit.


健康的身体是幸福的关键。如果你身体不好,无论如何努力,都很难快乐。良好的饮食,适量的锻炼以及充足的睡眠都是健康的基础。学会好好照顾你的身体。




20
Give back
学会给予


Doing good is one of the surest ways to feel good. According to Harvard, when people do good, their brains becomes active in the very same reward center that is stimulated when they experience other rewards. So it’s not a surprise that people who care more about others are happier than those who care less about others.


做善事能使人心情愉悦。根据哈佛研究表明,当人们做好事时,他们的大脑会变得活跃,与获得奖励时大脑的活动是一样的。所以,那些乐于关心别人的人要比不大关心别人的人更开心。


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