在拒绝中找机遇:受益一生的14种积极思维方式

2019年01月04日 美国留学妈妈圈



写在前面的话:过完年,一切回到正轨。学生们读书,考试,找实习,追工作,希望大家心随所愿。本文是几年前杜克大学送给毕业生的14幅漫画,讲述了这所非常有特点, very spirited 的学校对学生的期许。

新年伊始,与大家共勉。And,Stick with it!

01坚持

Stick with it


Stick with it.

如果你想最大化自己的潜能,坚持在专注的领域不断精深。


02」回报社会

Give back


Give back—serve from a sense of gratitude.

一颗感恩的心回报他人,一颗慷概的心给予他人,二者同样重要。


「03」做自己,善于学习

Be true to yourself


Be true to yourself. Be willing to learn and to be coachable.

做自己,善于学习。接受教育不仅是获得知识,学会学习,才能自我升级。


「04」灵感来自阅读

Reading leads to inspiration


Read outside of your chosen field, read broadly, read enthusiastically. Creativity is a necessary life skill and some inspirations will come from unexpected sources.

广泛的阅读,热情的阅读,读你熟悉的领域之外的书。创造力是一种必要的生活技能,而阅读会给你灵感。


「05」善意

Be kind


Be generous to other people.

仁慈的对待他人。


「06」聪明不代表受教育

Educated ≠ Smart


Never confuse being educated with being smart.

不要把教育和聪明混为一谈。教育让你既独立思考,又能善于倾听,有时后者更加重要。


「07」教育让你学会反思

Stop and look back


As you move forward into the next stage of your life, do not forget to stop and look back to discover the meaning of where you have been. That will help you better understand who you are, where you may be heading, and how you can get there.

请允许自己时不时停下脚步,回望过去,并思考它的意义。


「08」拥抱不确定的生活

Embrace ambiguity


Don’t be afraid to diverge from your ‘plan.’ Embrace ambiguity. The uncertain and what may appear high risk in relationships, jobs and life is usually very cool and worthwhile.

不要害怕改变,勇敢拥抱不确定。生命的本质就是不确定,勇敢接受,自有乐趣。


「09」价值在挑战中实现

This is your Life


Find a place where you can be challenged. Ask yourself: Am I proud of my work?

跳出自己的舒适区,寻找挑战自己的机会。问问自己,我对自己感到骄傲吗?


「10」学会在拒绝中找机遇

Reframe rejection


Learn to reframe rejection. Instead of seeing it as a shutdown, look at it as an opportunity to figure out why. Are you asking the wrong person? Have you not yet demonstrated you can handle the new responsibility? Over time, ‘no’ becomes just another opportunity to wait, learn and try again.

学会在拒绝中寻找机会。拒绝不是终结,而是给你机会让你去思考,让你去寻找答案。你是不是找错人了?你是不是没有表达清楚你有能力处理这个新任务?去学会等待和进行再一次尝试。


「11」关注人本身,而非头衔

Respect people over job titles


Respect people over job titles. Everyone’s life has meaning.

你永远不知道你会在别人身上学到什么,保持谦虚,向他人学习的习惯绝不会错。


「12」“关系”比“物质”重要

Relationships matter


You will get the more satisfaction about the relationships you form than from the things you acquire.

从与人们建立友好关系中获得满足感,要比你占有的物质带给你的幸福更多。


「13」人生选择没有对错

No right or wrong


People always obsess over big decisions (e.g., which job/ position to accept), but really, tomorrow will always be a blur. Plan with calmness, and then take the leap in the direction you think is best, knowing that there will rarely be a ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ but just a choice that leads to the next steps of life.

人们总是会面临各种各样的选择,比如工作,比如职位,明天充满未知。我们总想冷静的部署,然后选择我们认为最好的方案。但是要知道,选择并没有“对”与“错”,勇敢地选择,迈出下一步,自然而然,未来就在看得见的远方。


「14」别过无意识的生活

Pay close Attention


Pay close attention. This is your life.

留心观察,用心体会,这是你自己的生活。


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